This one is a no-brainer, right? Spending time with friends makes us happy. The question I would like to ask on this is why? What is it about spending time with friends generates so much happiness for all of us?
I’m sure there are scientific studies out there that would give us insight into answers to this question. In this instance, though, I’m going to just go from the gut. I think the reason that we are happy when we spend times with friends is that we have shared experiences. And we can relive these experiences each time we meet up. We can grow on the experiences and this makes our bonds of friendship, our connections if you will, even stronger. You may have heard it said that your friends “get you”. That’s what I mean. They understand your weirdness. They understand that you would rather be at home playing board games or cards than out on the town (or vice versa) and they are willing to join you in that. It is a shared experience and it is something we can build on.
When we’re younger, it seems easier to start building a friendship because finding share experiences is simpler. “You like this music or sport? I do, too. Let’s be friends.” And so it begins. As we get older, I think this becomes more difficult. Not impossible, just more difficult. I say this because as we age we are more and more set in our ways. Going outside of our comfort zone isn’t always a smooth ride. And we like the path we’re on just fine. But then something happens and we have a shared experience with someone and just like that, we have the possibility of building a friendship. Is there a learning curve inherent in this? Sure. Does it always work out? No, but the fact that we can make friends means that we will always have the chance to enjoy the happiness that comes from spending time with them. And that, in the end, it a thing to be grateful for.
What do you think – Why does having friends make us happy?